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after years… finally…

helloo, call me silver or any nickname of my url, all pronouns but prefer they/them. this is an introduction post because after a few years here i am FINALLY doing things that isnt reblogging

anyways

tags i use: #silver talks for once for random stuff i say, #silver writes for, well. my writings

further tags under these two categories with a bunch of posts:

• #fairytale fic - an in-progress fic, centered around edgejeanist from mha/bnha in an original world of mine. all lore is handmade by me
• #tragedy fic - an in-progress fic, on ao3 (link here) also centered around edgejeanist. inspired by the concept of the notthem and the stranger from tma
• #ghost-verse - an au fic where jeanist gets nomu-ified, and shinya time travels. nothing on ao3 yet, and no concrete timeline. it’s more of an au thing i pick up once in a while. side project?
• #anon asketh - anon asks. i have not gotten an ask thats not on anon but if i do they’ll be tagged with this too. if someone shows up a bunch they’ll get a tag. or if theyre a mutual
• #not-anon asketh asks that… aren’t on anon. yeah
• smut/not sfw content will be tagged appropriately and under the mature thingy tumblr added. usually will be put on ao3 and not tumblr, as im emotionally attached to this account (tumblr please do not nuke)
• i usually dont tag reblogs so good luck finding those buddy. tbh to find polls just search for the subject of them on tumblr… there was a period of time where my posts didnt show up, so for some stuff you might need to trawl through my blog to find
• i love asks. send me asks. they are so fun to answer in all types and kinds

also: as you might be able to tell, i am currently fixating on edgejeanist (<- has not watched the anime nor read the manga, all knowledge is from fanfic/tumblr/tvtropes/wiki pages) and most original content will probably be for them!

if i ever abandon a fic without notice or telling the readers you have my permission to physically fistfight me. i mean it.

am probably forgetting something but you know what? good enough lol

edit: OH YEAH. HERE’S MY AO3

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[thebibliosphere]

One of the really fun and interesting things about writing a polyamorous romance as someone who is ambiamorous/polyamorous is finding new ways to make sure the narrative hits the expected genre beats without just sort of... mushing it into a pre-existing monogamous romance mold, which is what I'm afraid happens a lot of the time.

Trust me, it was my job in the publishing house to make them fit that mold. I hated it.

Reading other poly-centric romances, I can always somewhat tell when someone is writing polyamory from a sexual fantasy aspect (zero shade; I'm here for all the group sex) without actually considering how it functions as a relationship dynamic, which can often come off as... well.

It's lacking for me as a romance.

Erotica-wise, it's fine. But it misses the romantic beats for me that I want as a polyamorous-leaning person.

There's so much emphasis on the polycule and never the individual dyads within the larger relationship.

For example, in a triad, there are actually four relationships to handle.

The dyad between A + B.
The dyad between A + C.
The dyad between B + C.
And the overarching relationship between A + B + C.

With monogamous-leaning authors or authors that've been pressed into conforming to the pre-existing genre beats, there's a tendency to treat the relationship as a homogenous mass where everything is fair and equal, and you treat all your partners the exact same way.

And I get it. It's easier to write everything as peachy-keen and to have external conflict be resolved with either acceptance or a brave confrontation.

But it doesn't always land for me as someone who wants to see my style of love represented in the genre.

In healthy polyamory, either closed or open, each relationship is unique in its own way. Taking the example of a triad again, the way A acts with C likely differs from how A acts with B.

And that's a good thing!

Because C might not want the same things as B, so trying to treat them both the exact same is a surefire way to make sure someone isn't getting their needs met, and that will lead to conflict.

Polyamory isn't striving for equality between partners but rather equity.

What are your individual needs, and how do I meet them, as well as meet the needs of my other partner(s)? What do you want from the larger relationship as a whole? How do we accommodate everyone without making someone feel neglected or uncomfortable? How do we show this in the narrative? How do we make sure character A isn't just treating B the same as C in every interaction? Do they ever fall into that pitfall? How do they remedy it?

It seems like common sense when you write it out like that, but it's a major pitfall I see time and time again. The characters never alternate their approach between partners, if there's any focus on the individuals at all.

The other major telltale thing I've noticed is that taking time to be with one partner is seen as a step down from the "goal" of the greater polycule.

The narrative is framed in such a way that they might start out with individual dates, but the end goal of the romance is to eventually be together 100% of the time all the time, and wanting individual time alone with any one partner is somehow "lesser."

Which is the goal of romance in monogamy, but it's not the goal of romance in polyamory.

Granted, you do need to end on a Happy Ever After or Happy For Now for it to fit the genre requirement. And a nice way of tying that up is to have everyone together at the end as a happy polycule all together all at once. I'm not disputing that as a narrative tool. I'm just pointing out that there's a tendency to present those moments as the sum total of the relationship when in actuality, there are multiple relationships that need to end happily ever after.

The joy of polyamorous love is the joy of multitudes. It's the joy of experiencing new things, both as individuals and as a polycule. If you're not taking care of the individual dyads, however, your polycule is going to crash and burn. You cannot avoid that. So why, then, is there such avoidance of it in stories meant to appeal to us?

Is it simply inexperience on behalf of the author? Or is it that they're not actually being written for us? Is it continued pressure to meet certain genre beats in a largely monogamous-centric genre? All of the above?

Either way, I'm having fun playing around with it and doing all the things we were warned against in the publishing house.

I'm having fun with Nathan and Vlad enjoying their own private dynamic that is theirs and theirs alone. I'm having fun with Ursula and Nathan being so careful and vulnerable around each other. I'm absolutely 100% here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula without a chaperone. And I'm here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula together and Nathan's fond, loving eye roll as he trails after them, too enamored to tell either of them no because where would the fun in that be...

Anyway. Don't mind me. Just getting my thoughts out while everyone else is in bed.

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[incorrectinfinity]

Ok just for curiosity reasons

Did you transfer to tumblr through a mass migration?

Nope I am here because I want to be and also I am stuck here forever please help

Yeah I moved here from Twitter and now people are mean to me 😔👍

Yeah I moved here from Reddit and people are nicer to me 😃👍

I came here from Tiktok because it was trendy at one point uhhhhhhhhh

I genuinely hate to say this but please reblog if you hit the like button for a larger sample size thank you <3

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[soberscientistlife]

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[gobbluthbutagirl]

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[noodelak]

Rewatching hero aca i love this dude 💜

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[radishnt]

which one of u was going to tell me that tea tastes different if u put it in hot water?

[mothman-misato]

y- you were putting it in cold water?????

[boimgfrog]

Radish. Answer the question radish.

[radishnt]

yeah??? i thought for like. 5 years that ppl just put it in hot water 2 speed up the tea-ification process didn’t realize there was an actual reason

[boimgfrog]

You dont have the patience to microwave water for 3 minutes???

[catsnraincoats]

[ID: Tags reading “u think i have the patience to boil water wtf ?????” /End ID]

why are you. putting it in the microwave to boil it

[boimgfrog]

Do you think I have the patience to boil water on the stove

[catsnraincoats]

Its takes less than a minute

[boimgfrog]

Bestie is ur stovetop powered by the fucking sun

[catsnraincoats]

How long does it take you to boil a cup of water on the stove

[boimgfrog]

Like seven minutes

[catsnraincoats]

Just stick the mug on top of the stove on medium heat n it boils in like two minutes… less than that is u use a saucepan…

[boimgfrog]

Crying you’re putting the whole mug on the stove ???? On medium heat???? Ur stove is enchanted

[pidoop]

Every single person in this post is a fucking lunatic

[silverjirachi]

Yet another post that reads like four shakespeare characters who come out in the middle of the play to talk about something completely unrelated for comic relief

[wizardlyghost]

(Enter RADISHN’T, MOTHMAN MISATO, BOIMG FROG and CATS'N RAINCOATS, stage left. They are having a HEATED DISCUSSION.)

RADISHN’T: Prithee, which one of you had planned to tell

Of diff'rent flavours gained by simple act

Of brewing tea with water hot, not cold?

MOTHMAN: Egad! you poured the water cold? Wherefore?!

FROG: An answer from you, Radish, I must beg.

RADISHN’T: Indeed I did, dear friends - why does this shock?

Without the guide of others I assumed

That heat was merely added for the sake

Of expediting this solution’s brewing!

Half a decade I have spent, or more,

Not questioning this worldview I had made.

In fact, I am myself a bit surprised

That you might think that I, your dearest friend,

Might have a patience of sufficient stock

To wait until a pot of water boils.

FROG: Three minutes overtaxes patience so?

The microwave will beep when it is done!

CATS'N: My friend, this answer vexes me the more!

Can it be true that thou dost boil by nuke?!

FROG: Are you in turn, my friend, so shocked to know

That I have not the patience, like our Root,

To boil upon the stove our favour’d drink?

CATS'N: It takes less than a minute!

FROG: On what plate?

Perhaps your dinner cooks atop the sun?

CATS'N: How long can take your stove to fill the task

Of boiling but a single cup alone?

FROG: In minutes?

CATS'N: Yes!

FROG: I counted seven, once.

CATS'N: Perhaps you ought to have your timepiece checked!

If on a middle heat you place the cup

You soon will have the scalding drink you crave.

Two minutes, in a mug upon the plate

Or even less, if you should have a pot.

FROG: You cause me tears - is this how thou dost live?

You place upon the iron stove a mug?

A mug, ceramic, filled with water cold?

How do these flames, though medium in height,

Not shatter like a glass this fragile thing?

Surely, then, your kitchen is bewitched

With magicks far beyond the mortal ken!

(The FOUR realise they have wandered into the THRONE ROOM. The ROYAL COURT watches with fascination.)

KING: Ev'ry single person in this group must be a fucking lunatic, it seems.

[greens-your-color]

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[strengthsapprentice-moved]

Asra: I gave you a part of my heart and would do so again <3

Julian: I would cure a hundred more plagues just to spend my life with you.

Nadia: I will lay down all of my mortal possesions for you.

Muriel: As much as I hate fighting, I will gladly protect you with my entire being.

Portia: We'll always have fun adventures together! I'll be your partner in crime!

Lucio: I-

Everyone in unison: SHUT THE FUCK UP

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[soberscientistlife]

Excellent Point

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[hotvampireadjacent]

A twitch streamer calling for his “mods” is exactly the same as a king asking for his knights to execute someone

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[julnites]

Did some punk Gwen expressions

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[great-and-small]

I am very intrigued by this paragraph from the Missouri department of conservation website that seems to suggest people try hand-feeding injured flies to sand wasps

[fractiousrvt]

I and all my friends used to catch these by hand as young children, though we called them sand bees. Never got bit or stung. They are really wonderful and beautiful creatures.

If I had known they ate flies as a kid, I would absolutely have hand-fed them.

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[footlongdingledong]

ALT

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[zerojanitor]

twitter: currently owned by techbro pissman

tumblr: actively removing functionality and bloating the interface with things nobody uses

discord: being retooled by ex-Meta management who don't understand the appeal of the platform

youtube: neutered by advertisers and algorithms and also tiktokification

reddit: half of the site is down due to protests about the outrageous monetization of third-party API support

facebook: my mom is on there

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[sabertoothwalrus]

a comic about progress